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Happy International Women day in arrears, I hope our journey to an equal world is closer than we think and thank you to all the women and men pushing for a better narrative of an equal world.
My second book review for the year is recommended by my #9to5chick book club, my reading buddies are the most amazing set of women cutting across different age groups and careers. The book was written by Nkiru Olumide-Ojo a Nigerian female enthusiast, author, columnist, development speaker and technocrat, her career stretches across some of the best sectors in history from financial services to aviation to telecommunication and petroleum sectors.
The popular narrative about Being a woman and not doing some things was one of the cores of this book.
The Pressure Cooker is a book that talks about the lessons of a woman at work. The best thing I loved about this book was the fact that these issues had the Nigerian perspective, I have read a couple of books with the same lessons but coming from a Nigerian angle was one thing I and my book club chicks agreed was a highlight. I didn’t have a favourite chapter in this book but a couple of chapters stood out for me, one of them was You and the Next Woman, I am a strong believer and advocate of the “Earn your Spot Squad” if you want to be the C-suite or major in your career you have to earn your spot, I am not oblivious to the fact that for women it’s a lot harder then the Nigerian factor is even worse, society, culture, religion, parental expectations the list is endless. In all these what we have is ourselves. One of the things Nkiru said was “The higher you climb, the easier it is for you to help others climb the ladder,…” the help still, yet, has to be earned by whoever is needing it, you should not expect someone to stake their reputation as a token of support because you are a woman. “If you want it, earn it”. If climbing the ladder means you losing your sense of self and hurt people you better stay down until you can handle climbing and helping others afterwards, thank me later.
This career ladder is not the same for everyone, male or female actually “Knowing how high you want to go determines the type of ladder you grab” Nkiru said that.
I remember watching Michelle Obama on Oparah’s WW 2020 tour when former First Lady talked about walking your walk and allowing everyone around you do same. The only time your walk gets slower is when you start to analyze it side by side someone else’s walk. The same thing applies to career, some people get jobs immediately after leaving school, some even before leaving school, for some people it takes months even years. All that wouldn’t matter if you are walking your walk. This walk can and would be overwhelming for some women, life would happen but never, I repeat never sell yourself short ( I am still learning too).
Another chapter that I enjoyed was Chapter 4 “Your Partner and Your Work”, I had mentioned earlier in my previous post, I am not a relationship coach and I never would be but I know that for both male and female, whoever you spend your time and forever with can help your career or send it to the bottomless pit. In this era where women are beginning to be more self-aware of their career and success finding someone that would allow you to be yourself is very important. There is nothing has unfulfilling as leaving this world empty and I know some people believe their children would make them feel fulfilled, its different strokes for different folks. “Know what you want and spend forever with it if you can“
#ThePressure Cooker is an 8/10 for me. I hope I get to read more books from Nigerian Authors. Please recommend books. Also, my personal library seems to be coming up well.
Thanks for reading